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How do you recover lost trust? Post a Day 2011

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Yikes. This topic is pretty heavy. How DO you recover lost trust? I’ve never been able to. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. There’s no going back. You can never again say that you truly trust a person who violates that confidence. How can you? “Oh I know I believed in you before and now that you’ve proven that you think very little of me and my friendship/partnership/relationship I think I’ll continue this totally illogical faith I have in you”-ummm, no. I don’t think anyone truly feels that way although many people would like to believe they can forgive and/or forget. I can do neither. I can try to ACCEPT what’s been done and if I’m not able to do that, well, whatever was between us before will be dead. Sad, isn’t it? But honestly, if you were the transgressor would you really want to remain in any kind of relationship with someone, whether it be intimate or business, who no longer trusts you? Your best bet is to fess up to whatever shitty thing you did and just move on. If you can’t be an honorable person in your dealings with certain individuals it might be best to seek out more like-minded folks. That way you can be yourself instead of being sneaky.

I feel an overwhelming need to disclose the fact that I’ve been untrustworthy to more than one person. I’m not proud of it but it’s a fact. I’m no longer in contact with any of the individuals I wronged. I followed my own advice and after spilling the beans I left the situation. I hate even remembering those moments and still feel incredibly guilty about them. I AM happy that there’s nothing untrustworthy I’ve done that isn’t out in the open but I’ve lost some good friends. I’ve also learned a lot of really great lessons. Be a good friend, be honest, open up, share, talk, trust, have honor and just be a decent human being.

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About eid2323

I've got a lot to say. I guess that's why most people start a blog, right? They've got thoughts, ideas, gripes, whatever, that they feel they must share with the world. Kind of egotistical, no? I mean, who's really going to read this? Am I so interesting that I can hold your attention over the rest of the world wide web? Strange to think that it could be possible. If you've read this far, you should know a little 'about me' as this portion is titled. Ok so, I live in Central Italy with my husband and daughter. He's an Italian citizen, I'm an American citizen which makes our baby...doomed, as well has a dual citizen. The cultures do more than clash. They kick, bite, and beat the crap out of eachother. You have to have a very worldly outlook to marry someone from another country. People around the world are raised very differently from one another. What's perfectly normal in one area of the world is cause for major concern in another. I stand in front of the fan to cool off when it's August and the heat is insane and the humidity keeps you sticky 24 hours a day. My husband is convinced I've some sort of superhuman powers to not have caught some serious illness by doing this. Sound senseless, it is. Italians are full of ridiculous beliefs that hold no ground outside the land of make-believe and nut-cases. But who am I to tell anyone that the sayings of their great-great-great Aunt Maria are bullshit? So I just listen and nod. Well that brings you a bit up to speed on my current situation, yeah? Ok so, read me blog now kiddies. Toodaloo!

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